(This post is a day late since I spent the day sick in bed yesterday. Â Sorry, baby girl.)
WARNING!!!! Â CHILD BIRTH STORY TO FOLLOW!!! Â But I think it’s rated G.
Four score and seven years ago . . . .
Oops. Â No, that’s not right.
Ten years and two days ago, Christmas day 2001, we spent a fun day celebrating in our home in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Â Elliot was barely 2 years old, and Zippy was a mere 7 months old. Â My parents and one of my brothers came to spend Christmas with us since we couldn’t travel — I was due to have my baby girl any day now. Â I was very much, very big with child. Â In fact, I was in labor for a good part of the afternoon and evening. Â Nothing real big, but I could tell things were happening.
The funny thing about being due right around Christmas is that you don’t know if 2001 is going to be the baby’s first Christmas or if 2002 will be the baby’s first Christmas. Â Those 1st Christmas outfits either need to be newborn size or 12 month size. Â The 1st Christmas ornaments either need to say 2001 or 2002. Â Tricky. Â It was Zippy’s first Christmas, and I guess the way it all ended up, he didn’t have to share the day with his baby sister.
My brother and my parents went to their hotel sometime in the evening. Â We put the kids to bed and went to bed. I woke sometime in the middle of the night and knew the time was close. Â I woke Paul and told him I was going to take a shower –how vain!– and then we needed to go to the hospital. Â When I had Elliot 2 years earlier, it was a very fast delivery, and I assumed this one would be similar.
After my shower, I called my parents and told them it was time. Â They headed back to our house to stay with the boys. Â They were staying close by. Â And the hospital was very close by, too. Â Closeness was ideal since we were actually in the middle of a blizzard. Â Yes! Â Lots of snow and wind to drive through. Â My girl was going to be born in the middle of a blizzard! Â She had missed Christmas, but was making it just in time for her first snow!
My parents arrived, and my sweet dad wanted to hold hands and pray for me and the baby before we left. Â What he didn’t understand was that I had planned this thing down to the wire, and I didn’t schedule time for prayer! Â I told him he’d better make it a quick one or that they’d have to do it without me!
We arrived at the hospital barely in time for me to get my epidural. Â As soon as we were a little bit settled, the doc came in to administer the epidural and asked Paul to leave the room for it. Â It’s always unsettling to be asked to leave the room when someone you love is about to have something done, but this doc didn’t want anyone in there for the epidural.
While receiving the epidural, I felt a pain that was very unfamiliar — it was big and hurt and felt just weird. Â I told the doc so. Â Right in the middle of receiving the epidural — you know the hold-your-breath-and don’t-move-a muscle part?– the pain intensified, and my water broke. Â Wow. Â What an embarrassing mess.
Immediately the attending doctor noticed that there was meconium in the water. Â Laymen’s terms: Â the baby had pooped and was possibly breathing the poop, which isn’t ideal. Â Bummer Number One.
When the epidural was done, they laid me back down to check me, and surprise! Â The baby was crowning. . . .well, no . . . not exactly . . . that’s not a crown. . . . that’s really more of a tiny little baby butt. . . . she’s breech. Â Bummer Number Two.
Unfortunately about that time, I started shaking uncontrolably — a common reaction to receiving an epidural, but it looks and feels ridiculous. Â I was shaking so badly I feared that I might just quake right off the bed onto the floor! Â Bummer Number Three.
Remember Paul . . . out in the hall, waiting? Â Yeah, he came in the room at the same exact time that the emergency team came in. Â So picture this: Â Your young wife shaking with amazing convulsions surrounded by teams of docs and nurses and a tiny little incubator and tiny little stretcher . . . the room filled with excited movement and preparation. Â Things looked serious and scary. Â Yeah, Bummer Number Four. Â Poor guy.
I tried to look natural through my convulsions, smiling and reassuring my poor husband that everything was really better than it looked. Â I could tell he was in a panic.
“It’s just a funny reaction to the epidural. Â I’m totally fine. Â And they just learned that the baby is breech so they brought in the NICU team to be here incase it’s needed. Â And they’re all here and ready in case I need to have an emergency c-section. Â It’s totally fine. Â I promise.” Â <smile. Â shake. Â shake. Â hold on to the bed for dear life so as not to shake onto the floor.>
The doctor gave us a choice of doing a c-section or going about as planned. Â I opted for keeping on keeping on since I had a 2-year-old and a 7-month-old at home — not the optimal time to be recovering from surgery. Â Let’s do this thing.
So we did. Â After only a very short time, the baby came out butt first. Â Then her little legs. Â Then her body and shoulders. Â And then her precious little head.
She didn’t have the best of scores when she was born, but she was okay. Â Seems like they took her away maybe because they couldn’t get her temp to rise. Â I don’t remember much about those details because I was still laboring like crazy. Â For some reason (I’ll spare you the details because they don’t matter, and I don’t really know them, and I have a terrible memory to boot!) my body wasn’t cooperating. Â It was going on and on like I still had some major delivery to make or something. Â The contractions were absurdly painful. Â And the doctors had to give me medicine to continue my contractions to try to get the rest of my body to start recovering and behaving. Â So I lay there for another hour or so contracting and in so much pain! Â Ugh. Â Not my best hour.
My precious husband came in the room holding a little baby burrito with a little hat on her head. Â “What are we going to name her?” he asked in a sweet whisper.
“Get her out of here and quit asking me questions!” was my rational, loving response. Â Yeah, I told you it wasn’t my best hour.
I think it was in that hour that Paul named the precious burrito Chloe Annette, a name we had talked about and agreed on earlier.
Seems like I yelled at Paul a few more times and let the doctor have it a couple of times, too. Â I guess I needed someone else to join me in my misery.
Finally, things started to calm down and I was able to start recovering. Â And I allowed Paul and Baby Chloe to come back in the room.
I held that little bundle and looked at her sweet, pink face. Â And she looked just like my father-in-law! Â Seriously! Â The nurses were telling me it was time to nurse her, and I couldn’t get my father-in-law’s face out of my mind!!! Â Funny! Â And a wee bit awkward.
Once I got over the additional hour of excrutiating pain and got over the whole father-in-law thing, I was able to completely and totally fall in love with my new baby girl.
What a precious angel! Â My Snow Angel — born in the middle of a blizzard 5 hours after Christmas. Â What a perfect gift!
I can’t believe she’s 10 years old! Â Wow! Â Time sure flies when you’re having fun!
Happy Birthday, Chloe!