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Happy New Year!

It’s minute one of a new year.

12:01AM

January 1

2014

No resolutions — it’s just groundwork for failure.

No word of the year — having to narrow down to just one word makes me shoot too high and miss the mark after a week or so.

But I do have a few thoughts as I enter this new year.

My mission in 2014:

  • Extend grace.
  • Do a little each day.
  • Recognize miracles.
  • Choose happiness.
  • Be someone’s light.

Sounds like the recipe for a good year of contentment. Bring it on.

 

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Revisiting “Delight”

As you may or may not remember, I chose DELIGHT as my word for the year for 2012. Today, I’m revisiting that word and updating you on how I’m doing with it.

The update in a word: FAIL!

Really. I’ve already leveled with you in an earlier post about the place I’ve been in. I’ve been in a yucky place of not liking very many people (of course I always liked YOU!) and not liking very many things. I’ve been in a place of wanting to just stay within the 4 walls of my house while I learn to breathe again after our experiences of the last couple of years. I think when you reach the point of having to fight really, really hard for the basic rights of someone you love deeply, it affects you deeply. And it did me. So that’s where I’ve been.

But as I tried to force myself today to think of things I’ve been delighting in, I was able to think of several! Yay!

1. Lip Stuff. I love lip balm. I’m definitely addicted to it. I use it a million times a day, over and over and over again even before my lips get dry. I love the feeling of applying my lip balm. I buy lip balm often and have lip balm available in my car, in the kitchen, in the bathroom, in the laundry room, in my purse … pretty much everywhere. I love it. And I certainly find delight in it. 🙂 What?? I do!

2. Zippy’s laughter. I’ve already confessed to you the number of hours we sat in front of the TV and explained to you how funny the shows are that we were watching. Zippy laughed and laughed and laughed at those shows. I MUST video his laughing for you so you can believe me when I say that his laugh is just about the funniest, most joyful sound ever in the world. In the history of the world. It is so carefree and so belly-felt. I love it!

3. Chloe’s communicating more. I have loved that Chloe is using her talker more to communicate. We had a lady come to our house 4 times a week over the summer to work with Chloe and increase her communication with her iPad/ Prolouquo2go, and Chloe did so well! She is so funny and has plenty to say — it’s just tricky to find out what it is she wants to say and program her talker accordingly! If what she wants to say is on there, she says it! I loved growing in that area with her and seeing her make such progress.

4. Bean burritos. Don’t judge me. But I have so loved eating bean burritos this summer. I think it’s another addiction, actually. I keep going through the drive-thru of Taco Bueno and Taco Casa and getting bean burritos. Yummy! They are a nice comfort food for me. Not to mention, while I order a bean burrito for myself, I can order a side of beans for Chloe, which she really delights in! She loves refried beans! 🙂

5. Ok. Speaking of addictions, I may as well add Dr Pepper to this list. I have certainly delighted in great big Dr Peppers this summer. You may have heard my big, heavy sighs as I took the first big gulp out of my daily Dr Pepper. Yeah, I like it that much!

6. Last but certainly, certainly not least: Elliot’s drumming. I have delighted in the sound of Elliot’s drumming — drumming on his drum set, drumming on the tenors borrowed from the school, drumming on the bar in the kitchen, drumming on the dashboard, drumming on his lap, drumming on the wall, drumming on his sister, drumming on the table at dinner … I have loved it. He is so growing in that talent and in that skill. It’s awesome to hear your kid making music!

So there… I have been delighting even in this dark season! Yay! Probably focusing on these things in which I delight would be a great way to delight more and more …. Except several of them are issues of addiction! Ha. Well, I’ll delight and also try to find some balance. 🙂

Still delighting in 2012!

Her Voice

Delight!

Recently I also delighted in the sound of Chloe’s voice. Chloe is 10-years-old and is mostly nonverbal. When she vocalizes something, we notice. And we smile. And we’re proud. And we think it’s precious.

We were at a group Bible study recently at a friend’s house. Chloe was back in the little girls’ room playing toys. And several times she mimicked a talking toy. I heard her clap a couple of different times. She talked off and on, unaware that anyone was listening.

But I was listening. I heard it. And it made my heart glad. It was difficult to follow the adult conversation because I was so taken by the sound of Chloe’s voice in the next room.

I love that precious little girl. And anytime she is talking, it makes me stop and listen. And my heart is so filled with singing and smiling.

Keep it up, little one!

Delighting Today

As most of you know, I chose a word for 2012. A word to focus on. A word to sorta guide me. A word to remind me.

Delight.

My word for 2012 is Delight. It has been more of a challenge to Delight than I was expecting. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the daily struggles, big and small. It is so easy to get carried away with my to do list each day.

But today I delighted.

I went away for the weekend on a church women’s retreat. I was gone for 2 nights, and Paul took care of everything single-handedly. (Well except for a few hours when my sis-in-law had Zippy and Chloe.) Coming home, I was excited to see my family. Don’t know if you’ve noticed before, but I rather like my husband and my kids. They are my life, and they complete me. I adore them. I breathe easier when we’re all together and accounted for.

So coming home was a nice feeling of expectancy and reuniting.

Elliot was the first one I saw. He ran across the parking lot to greet me. He was genuinely pleased to see me and told me that he missed me.

Then I greeted Zippy who is always glad to see me. Even when I’m gone for only an hour, he often greets me as though I’ve been away for a week. I love that kid.

And then I said Hi to Chloe. When she heard my voice she looked up into my eyes for longer than she usually does, seeming to take it all in and making sure it really was me. It was a sweet look. And then I made her give me a sweet kiss.

And then I saw Paul and was genuinely glad to see him and to touch him.

I was home. And all was well. 🙂

Delight!


Update on my Word for 2012.  I am delighting in:

  • spring-like weather!
  • Chloe’s throwing a big ol fit to express her frustration
  • basketball season with my boys
  • watching Wheel of Fortune with the family
  • the boys playing together
  • Chloe dribbling, dribbling, dribbling the basketball
  • an evening with nothing to do
  • a freshly-mowed lawn
  • finally discovering what was stinking up my fridge!
  • new air fresheners
  • new batteries
  • a clean bathroom
  • a new shirt
  • friends who “get it”
  • celebrating my nephew’s graduation from Basic Training in the Air Force!
  • bedtime ritual with Zippy of reciting a special poem while rubbing his cute face
  • holding Zippy’s hand while walking across a parking lot
  • hearing Elliot practice drums/bells
  • Chloe voting NO! to going to her brothers’ basketball games
  • making progress on some goals that I set for this year
  • speaking of, feeling like I’ve conquered the new “one space after a period” rule!
  • playing Words With Friends with Elliot

… Yes, I’m delighting! 🙂

Bummer . . . Fail!

Well, I have admitted here before that I’m not real big on making New Year’s Resolutions.  I don’t make them, and I don’t keep them.  I guess probably the whole truth is that I don’t make them because I don’t keep them.  It’s painful to fail at a new committment over and over and over and again.  So I finally just stopped making them.

I did, of course, choose a word for this year.  DELIGHT.  And wrapped up in that word are certainly implied resolutions — things I will aim to do differently, things I will try to approach differently, things I will try to relate to differently or interact with differently or respond to differently.  So my word for 2012 is a resolution — or even a list of resolutions, really.  But for the most part, I have just stopped making New Year’s Resolutions.

Every now and then, however, I decide to make a resolution or two.  This year I made 3.  But I didn’t tell anyone.  So they didn’t really count.  They were certainly unofficial since they weren’t written down anywhere nor were they spoken aloud.  But I sorta kinda made 3 New Year’s Resolutions in my head . . . to myself. 

And I’ve broken all 3 like crazy.  For that matter, I’ve done a lousy job on my word for the year, too.  See, that’s why I don’t play that game.

1.  DELIGHT.  Result: Fail.  Explanation: I started the year by hurting my back and spent the first week and a half of the year on the couch in pain, worthless.  It was difficult to delight in anything.  Since finally getting up and getting things back under control, I’ve been too wrapped up in trying to get things back under control to delight in anything.  I’ve been tired and grumpy.  I’ve been busy and overworked.  And I haven’t been delighting in the 4 favorite people in my life.  But today’s a new day.  I will delight in them today!  I have scheduled coffee with a friend, and I will delight in her friendship and try this whole Word of the Year thing again.

2.  No Dr. Pepper for a year.  Result: Fail.  Explanation: Really the goal was no soda, no pop, no soda pop, no Coke . . . however in the world you say it . . . for a year.  365 days.  No big deal.  I’ve done it before, and I can easily do it again.  And I succeeded at first.  I was doing really well . . . . but by the time January 2nd rolled around, I caved.  Yes!  I only lasted a day and a half.  Pathetic.

3.  Use only 1 space after a period. Result: Fail. Explanation: I recently learned that the rules have changed. Now instead of putting 2 spaces after a period when we type, apparently we are supposed to only put 1. It was my goal to switch to this new grammatical rule . . . since I am an English major!! But I have found it is quite difficult for this old dog to learn a new trick. It is especially tricky for this old dog to learn a new trick that she doesn’t like. This paragraph is following the rule of only one space, and I don’t like it a bit. I think I find comfort in the “airy-ness” of 2 spaces after a period. So I’ve failed at this unofficial resolution, too. There is still hope that I will catch on and begin to follow this rule, but it will be a tough one, to be sure.

4.  Publish at least 3 blog posts every week of the year.  I failed at that already, too.  When I realized on Sunday night that a week was just passing by with no post, I nearly sat down and posted 3 random things that night just to say I didn’t fail.  But I didn’t.  A week went by with no post.  Bummer.

But thankfully each day is a new day!  And God’s mercies are new every morning!  I can start anew with whatever I want to start anew with!

I’m not sure if I will try to  restart any of the above resolutions.  I will for sure keep my Word of the Year.  That’s a biggie, and I knew it would be a process anyway.  Learning to delight even in the midst of crummy circumstances is certainly a process.

So today, I’m choosing to delight in new beginnings.  I don’t have to wait for January 1st to roll around again.  I can start anew today!

There!  I just did!  🙂

DELIGHT in 2012

DELIGHT

It’s my word for 2012.

In thinking about my life and my time and the people I love, I chose the word DELIGHT to be my focus for the year 2012.

Today, the first day of 2012, I begin my focus and my meditation and my aim for delight.  Finding delight, acting in delight, claiming delight.

So much of my life is consumed with making sure things are covered, making sure things are done, making sure things are thought through and accomplished.  So much of my life is often stressful, often un-fun, often serious, often daunting.  So much of my life tends toward serious, life stuff.

And so often, I am bogged down in the seriousness of life.  So often I realize I haven’t laughed in too long.  So often I realize I am not enjoying my children.  I often realize that I am too busy or too stressed to have fun with my husband.  When I stop and think about what brings me joy, I hesitate a little longer than I wish I did as I try to think of my answer.

I am setting out to DELIGHT in things I love this year.

Delight to me includes:  happiness, contentment, joy, laughter, sunshine, fulfillment, yellow, bright, pleased, blessed, joy, smiles, fun, enjoyment, deep-heart happy.  Delight is also going to involve some action for me this year.  Not just feeling it in my spirit, but acting on it!  Acting on it to the point that people notice it.

I will delight in Paul, my husband of nearly 20 years.  In fact, we celebrate our 20th anniversary this year, and I would love nothing more than to celebrate it right in the middle of my Year of Delight actually delighting in him!  I want to bless him and be blessed by him.  I want us to have fun together — even spontaneous fun!  Not too many years ago, Paul and I had the type of relationship that people looked at with envy and commented how it was so obvious that we enjoyed each other so much and were such good friends.  Seems like the hardness of life has zapped some of the joy and the fun from our relationship.  We have a strong bond, but perhaps some of the joy and fun are MIA.  I am aiming to change that this year — change it by starting in my own spirit this year.

I will delight in my children.  Elliot will become a teenager in my Year of Delight.  A teenager!!  My years with him are limited — he’s growing up.  He’s a great kid, and I want to relish in him and take time to stop and listen to him more.  Zippy is a lover, and I don’t stop and cuddle with him as much as I should.  I want to delight in my time with him.  I want to delight in the sound of his voice!  So much of my time with Chloe is consumed with therapy or stretching or practicing a skill — all of which are important.  But this year I want to enjoy being Mom when I’m with her.  In thinking of how to delight in my children, I want to laugh together and play together more in 2012.

I will delight in other people whom I love.  Life is oftentimes too busy, and I neglect the rest of my family and friends with whom I truly do want to connect.  As cold as it sounds, sometimes you just have to make it a commitment and mark it on your calendar in order to make it happen or else it just won’t happen.  So I would like to delight with some fun people — and commit to doing so.  (Dear friends, you know who you are!  So call me soon to schedule our fun times together!  LOL!)

I will delight in the Lord.  I will delight in my relationship with God.  In the past I have found such comfort and peace and joy in relying on the Lord, with time spent in prayer or reading the Bible or in worship.  Lately, it seems life has hardened me to the point that I am too cynical about many things — including things of the Lord.  I want to again delight in time spent with God.

I will delight in fun things — in having fun just for fun’s sake.  I can hardly type this with a straight face because it seems so forced.  But it’s important for us to have fun, and I want to make it a point to do so.  Not sure what this will look like for me this year.  Maybe playing games, maybe watching fun movies (I’ve become such a movie hater because I feel like it zaps a ton of time from my life for no reason whatsoever!), maybe reading books just for enjoyment, maybe saying yes more often when someone asks me to join them in something just for fun.  (I realize this makes me sound like quite a stick in the mud, but perhaps that is indeed exactly what I’ve slowly become.)

And those are my thoughts so far on Delight in 2012 and what it might mean for me.  I am excited to have a focus.  I know it will be a struggle at times as things occur that will temporary zap my joy and my delight, but my goal will be to always focus on some things in which I can delight — even in the midst of trials or frustrations!

Have you picked a word or a theme for 2012?  I would love to hear about it!

DELIGHT in 2012

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