Archive for September, 2010

Defining the H

Lego Towers

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The H in ADHD stands for hyperactivity.  It means impulsivity and over-activity.  It is sometimes complicated and complex as a parent analyzes their child:  is this normal kid behavior, or is it hyperactivity?  Does this child just lack common sense, or is this impulsivity?

Let me explain it very simply.

You can be sure that your 9-year-old child is exhibiting the behaviors of H if within a 2-hour time period, he knocks over a Lego city that his mom and sister worked hard to build, drops his pants and pees on the porch, screams at the top of his lungs for no apparent reason every 10 minutes or so, and completely immerses both of his hands in his bean soup at the dinner table.  Yes, that child is the H to which the professionals are referring.

Just for the record. .  . this whole crazy-things-in-a-couple-of-hours idea is, of course, totally hypothetical since I’ve never seen anything like this from anyone in my family. . . .  Ummmm, really.

I’ve just heard about stuff like that. . . .

God Cares

To-Do List

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I am a list person.  I make lists.  Lots of lists.  I write To Do lists, shopping lists, packing lists, phone call lists, medication lists — all types of lists.  And it might not surprise you that I’m one of those list makers who write down stuff I already did just so I can cross it off my list. I love to cross things off my list.

Perhaps the reason I’m a list person is because I’m pretty scattered and can’t keep things straight.  I have to have a list — a plan — or I do nothing.  Lists help me organize my life and take care of the things that I need to.

One of my lists is a doctors to call list.  I usually have several doctors I need to call each week, either with questions or reports or making appointments or getting refills.  The last couple of weeks, I haven’t written down my doctors to call list; instead, I’ve just kept it in my head.  (Uh-oh.  Can’t be good.)  I have, for some reason, fallen behind on my doctor calls.  (Could it be that I had no list?!  Could it be that we have been living in crisis mode dealing with Chloe’s school stuff?)  Well, I finally remembered to call some of them yesterday and today.

One of the doctors was for Elliot.  To protect his privacy I won’t mention the issue here on this public blog, but it is an old issue that has reissued on the other side . . . or actually gone missing on the other side. . . Anyway, I remembered to call his urologist yesterday to make an appointment.  The news?  The doctor can’t see us until December.  December!  And he’s an established patient!  Crazy.  But I decided to make an appointment with his nurse practitioner whom we’ve never met since we could get an appointment to see her in 2 days!  Well, yes, we’ll see the nurse practitioner.  Then today I get a call from the urology office saying I need to call them regarding Elliot’s appointment for tomorrow.  I was immediately agitated, assuming that they needed to change to a different day.  Seems like that happens all of the time to us.

I called back and am still amazed at what transpired:  I was talking to the nurse practitioner’s nurse (if that’s not confusing . . . ) who informed me that unfortunately the nurse practitioner doesn’t see patients with problems like Elliot has.  We were going to have to see the doctor after all.  Well, okay.  Disappointing, but okay.  Let’s change tomorrow’s appointment to who knows when.  But then, her next words made me shout Hallelujah!  “He can see you tomorrow at 2:30.  Would that work for you?”  Wow!  From December to tomorrow!!??  Awesome!

So the point of the story is that God cares.  Elliot is concerned about his issue since his self-exam has revealed something surprising.  I really was thinking he needed to see the doctor who had done his previous surgery but didn’t want it to wait until December.  And now, Elliot gets to see his doctor tomorrow!!  God is good.  And he cares about what troubles us.

I will, of course, give you the report from the tenders doctor soon.  🙂

Cousins in Hawaii!

What made the Hawaii trip so much fun was going with a group of 20 people!  10 adults (grandparents and aunts and uncles) and 10 cousins!  While Hawaii was fun and beautiful, it’s the people who made the memories, and it’s the people we were with that we will remember those days for!  The following slideshow includes some cousin time as well as 9 shots trying to get a good photo of all 10 kids!  🙂

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Dinner with a Purpose

Mark Your Calendar  Monday September, 27  Donate Profits Day!    On Monday, Sept. 27, 100% of Chili's Profits* go to St. Jude  Children's Research Hospital®.

This Monday, September 27, Chili’s restaurants all over the country are donating their profits to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.  What a great way to support St. Jude’s, a hospital well known for its cancer care.  While we, of course, all pray it’s never a place that we have to visit, there are many, many families who do have to visit.  And we can help support the care and research for these kids with cancer.  Visit St. Jude’s website to learn more about the great things they do for children.  And then, go get a burger at Chili’s.  BTW, it doesn’t have to be dinner — Chili’s is donating their profits ALL DAY!!

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I’m a Ficus, too, Michelle!

Do you ever click on the blogs listed to the right of my blog?  Those are some blogs that I enjoy visiting and reading, and if you ever have some spare time, I think you’d enjoy them ,too.

Well, one of those blogs is SomeGirlsWebsite.  Michelle’s blog is funny, entertaining, inspiring, and encouraging.  And today, I must re-post something from her blog.  You see, while she describes herself using the analogy of a ficus tree, she is totally and completely describing me today — right now — this week!  So, Michelle, hoping it’s with your blessing, here’s the quote from your blog post this week:

I am a lot like a ficus tree. Have you ever had one? One little move, one little change in lighting or watering and it’s leaves all start to shed. I don’t handle change very well. I wish I was more like a household ivy… you can move it anywhere you want in the house, change the lighting, water or not water and when it’s not getting enough it will droop a little to tell you it’s thirsty. Oh, to be like a household ivy! (my ficus leaves have been dropping like crazy this past week)

With all the struggles, work, trials, and setbacks of parenting a special-needs child, it behooves me to be a household ivy — strong, resilient, unneedy, low maintenance, durable, quick-recovering!  But now and then, this household ivy of a mom drops her ivy persona and is surprised to find that somewhere deep inside is a ficus heart that is sensitive and can’t take the stress.

I’ve certainly been losing lots of leaves lately!  Oh, to be like a household ivy, indeed!

Hawaii – the luau

I never finished my Hawaii report!  So in honor of great memories and thinking positive thoughts, I’ll revisit Hawaii today!  🙂

We went to a fabulous luau one night in Maui.  It was at the resort where we stayed — the Drums of the Pacific Luau at the Hyatt Regency.  It was wonderfully entertaining, educational, cultural, and yummy!  A great time for everyone.  The luau was certainly a highlight for Chloe, who loved every minute of it!  (But it was way too long for Zippy.  He got very restless and grumpy which in turn made Dad a little grumpy.  But the rest of us loved the luau!)

They were very accommodating with Chloe’s wheelchair.  We were actually VIPs at the event because of my in-laws’ 50th anniversary so we were as close to the stage as you could get!

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What I Learned Today

Hungarian Telephone Factory - 1937. Budapest

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Ever been in charge of gathering volunteers?  Maybe for church, for school, for PTA, for a service project?

Gathering volunteers is one of my jobs at the PTA at the kids’ school.

What I learned today is not all that surprising.  It’s not surprising, but it is telling.

The fact is that when you call people and ask for help on a project, many times they don’t call you back.  I already knew that since this is not my first rodeo.

But what I learned today is a SURE FIRE way to get the people to call you back in a matter of moments.  Seriously!  Just moments.

Today I called some volunteers and left them a message.  I was amazed at the response!  Nearly all of them had returned my call within 5 minutes!!!  Unheard of!

The message?

Hi!  Thank you for volunteering to help with the luncheon.  I really appreciate your help.  Believe it or not, we have more volunteers than we need.  I just wanted to let you know that we won’t need you to bring anything after all.  Why don’t you call me to let me know if that’s okay with you.

Ring!  Ring!

Remarkable.

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