Recovering

I’m not sure if there’s even anyone still out there …. I haven’t posted in quite a while. I’ve been in a bit of a slump — in a hole — stuck.

In a nutshell, things continued to go poorly at school for Chloe. I became more and more convinced that we needed to take advantage of our and Chloe’s rights and seek legal representation. In April we officially filed Due Process against our school district. It was a difficult decision but one we prayed about and sought council (Christian and legal) on. We were set to be in Hearing this week, in fact. But in June, we settled with the district in Mediation.

It has been a very difficult year and a half. And a very difficult process of deciding to file Due Process. But we feel 100% that we did the right thing and would do it again in a heartbeat if needed.

Chloe is receiving services that weren’t offered to her before filing Due Process — services that we believe wouldn’t have been offered outside a settlement process. We are pleased with the outcome of our settlement with the district. We are very hopeful for the coming year. We are optimistically hopeful. We are praying and crossing our fingers and working our tails off to make this year a good one for her.

Knowing from my relationships with my readers that many of you struggle with school issues regarding your student who receives special education services, I just want to point out (incase you don’t know or incase you’ve forgotten or incase you’re scared or incase you didn’t really understand) that you and your child have the right to file Due Process when the district or school system isn’t following the law regarding your child. Filing Due Process is basically suing your school system — and you as an individual on your child’s behalf can do it. Please don’t hesitate to ask me questions about it in the comments section. If you want it to remain anonymous and not be published, just let me know and I won’t post it.

So that’s the main thing … is I want you to know that Due Process is your right. And our only regret is that we didn’t do it sooner. Seriously, we should have filed at least a year earlier.

I haven’t been blogging much because there was so much going on that I really just couldn’t talk about publicly. I had to zip up my lips. Also, I was just in bad place — I was angry, sad, wronged, and overwhelmed. It is hard to think of anything worth publishing when your thoughts are drowning in anger. I was also just 100% focused on the whole goal and the plan. I didn’t have enough energy in myself to be blogging and fighting our fight, … and the fight was a whole lot more important and timely.

Also, (and it’s hard for me to say this with a straight face, but it’s true!) I haven’t had anything nice to say because I just haven’t liked people! Really. To be so upset and wronged by people just caused me to sort of shut down and “fall out-of-love with people”, so to speak. It was (is) a scary, dark place to be in — to not like people. Yuck. But here I sit typing a blog post so I must be emerging from that place! 🙂

All of that to say: of course, my children are still precious and are still doing amazing and funny things every single day that I could blog about. Our life wouldn’t be so ordinary if that wasn’t the case! And my plan is to start blogging again and trying to climb out of that yucky place back up to a smiley place — a place where I notice the simple, happy things! And if any of my friends are still out there, then we can maybe do it together! 🙂

Thanks for your patience. And I know many of you have prayed for me now and then since usually my silence signals some sort of trouble in our life. I appreciate it!

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9 responses to this post.

  1. Oh how I WISH I was closer for a night of Papasitos and Margaritas. I miss you guys all so much. Sending enormous hugs and love to everyone. Someday I WILL be in Fort Worth again!!! {{{hugs}}} (PS – I am learning there are days I really dont like people either, and I think that is ok. Sometimes we need to ”Be Still” and just be.)

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  2. Posted by Katie L. on August 8, 2012 at 8:57 PM

    Still here! Will be praying for you and thinking of you!

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  3. Yay for you!

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  4. Posted by Audrey on August 8, 2012 at 10:44 PM

    Just wanted to say Congratulations to you and your family on a hard fought battle. Take your time emerging from that place. You deserve every minute of recovery.

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  5. Posted by Melissa Coco on August 8, 2012 at 11:12 PM

    You -OF COURSE- rock:) love ya girl

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  6. I can completely relate on so many levels to this post. Welcome back.

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  7. Posted by PAPA on August 9, 2012 at 11:46 AM

    welcome back! I miss hearing from you…days dont start out so good without you. I need to hear from you! i LOVE YOU …THIS IS GOING TO BE A GREAT YEAR FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR DADDY LOVES YOU.

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  8. Posted by Julie on August 9, 2012 at 12:37 PM

    Proud of you guys. As Kelly says, parenting is one of the hardest things any of us ever do. Your story this past year is another good example of that. You need to pull into your turtle shell during those times-glad to see you are coming back out!

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  9. […] I’ve already leveled with you in an earlier post about the place I’ve been in. I’ve been in a yucky place of not liking very many people […]

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