Give yourself permission to say NO to some things
so that you save your time, energy, and emotion
to do the things that only you can do!
Nope, not a chicken nugget. A nugget of wisdom. A nugget of wisdom whose truth screams to me sometimes but seems really difficult to follow most of the time.
I attended a seminar for parents of children with special needs a year or so ago. I left the seminar with this nugget that I think about all the time. Eventually perhaps I will weigh every decision and every commitment with the criteria from this nugget. But for now, I oftentimes say, “Yes!” or make a commitment without considering the wisdom found in the nugget.
When I make commitments without weighing them completely or when a situation changes at home but the commitment remains, I go through seasons of being overwhelmed with life. That’s where I am right now. A bit overwhelmed. It’s not huge or terrible. I go through it now and then — being overwhelmed for a week or two. But then my emotions and nerves calm, and I return to my usual happy self! 🙂
Give yourself permission to say NO to some things
so that you save your time, energy, and emotion
to do the things that only you can do!
But I considered the nugget yesterday and said NO to two things that I wanted to do. I knew I couldn’t do them in our present state. I knew that I needed to say NO to those two things so that I could save my time, energy, and emotion to do the things that only I can do.
What can only I do? Love, nurture, and discipline my precious, out-of-control son. Care for and nurture and connect with my sweet 7-year-old daughter who is a bit testy these days. And work hard bringing some sort of peace to our household for Elliot and for Paul in the midst of all of it. Those are things that I must do. So I said No to two things — to two things that someone else can probably do.
I very much wanted to help my friend yesterday. I wanted to say YES and step in and help her day go more smoothly. But I knew I had to say NO this time.
I very much wanted to take the family to meet up with our extended family on Friday evening to start our Christmas festivities with them. But I knew I had to say NO this time. (Actually on this one I just had to postpone a day.)
So “Yea, Me!” I said NO! I used wisdom and restraint! Little victories. 🙂
And you know what? My friend completely understood and respected my decision. And my family was totally supportive and encouraged me to do whatever I need to do.
Give yourself permission to say NO to some things
so that you save your time, energy, and emotion
to do the things that only you can do!
Do you need this nugget today??